There is always a fine line between a reason and excuses, and people always get confused with it. In our concept, excuses are bad and negative. Even so, people find it hard to beat those bad excuses and differentiate ween the reasons.
People use both reasons and excuses to express their feelings and to bring further explanations to support their actions.
Both reasons and excuses are used to make your decision reasonable and lead you to continue the things that you have decided to do.
Difference between reasons and excuses
Reasons and excuses have identical definitions, as well as perform a very similar purpose. However, they are different — and no other people except you can identify the “reasons” and “excuses” that you made.
Reasons are statements that can be supported by further explanations which bring facts. They are always related to your belief and should be supported with real data to make them powerful and believable.
Reasons are your answers to wonder. They give you ideas about “why” you are doing these things.
Excuses are much more about your point of view instead of being supported with facts and theory. They are always included with lies and fakes.
Instead of supporting the thing that you would like to do for reasons, excuses are mainly used to refuse the first option so that you can continue with your second option.
As you could see, there is a difference between reasons and excuses. Let’s dive deeper to learn how to fix fake reasons.
The formation of excuses
The formation of excuses is like forming a new habit — as it is related to the forming of human behavior. Building a habit can be divided into four simple steps: cue, craving, response, and reward.
When you feel overwhelming doing your tasks, it will be a cue that triggers your desire of craving for rest. Thus, your mind and body will produce a response that tells you to leave your current job and rest.
Resting will make you feel better, and this is the reward for your body. When this entire process is completed, you will be more likely to perform the same action whenever you feel overwhelmed, as this will form a new habit.
So how are excuses formed?
Excuses are formed when your craving is against the things that you are doing, and this craving is greater than the things that you want to do.
Thus, an excuse that lets you quit your current goals and perform another will be formed.
Here is an example:
Cue: You are late to work
Craving: You don’t want to be scolded
Your goal is being honest, but your desire not to be scolded is greater than your goal, so you end up creating a fake reason as an excuse to please your boss.
Takeaway: Excuses are always formed to perform against your goals because of a greater craving in the opposite way, while reasons are statements that are used to support your decision.
Reject negative excuses
Negative excuses are excuses that minus the value in your life. They may stop you from achieving your goals, procrastinate your current decisions and create a negative image about yourself.
Telling yourself tomorrow will be a better day to start exercising is a negative excuse. This excuse will make your goal unclear and lead you to procrastinate rather than taking action.
A negative excuse is changing your belief towards the negative side. A belief in a person is extremely important for self-development and self-motivation, but negative excuses are declining your willpower.
These excuses are making you neglecting about your ability to do better. You will be constantly accumulation the negative mindset in yourself.
People are spending too much of their time on negative excuses instead of solving the problem — negative ideas will compound and spread more.
“People spend too much time finding other people to blame, too much energy finding excuses for not being what they are capable of being, and not enough energy putting themselves on the line, growing out of the past, and getting on with their lives.” J. Michael Straczynski
Add positive excuses
Although most excuses are negative, there are still positive excuses. Positive excuses are excuses that are made to add value to your life. They help you say more “nos” that are unnecessary and only focus on one thing at a time.
For example, when you have too many tasks that you need to complete today, figuring out a kind excuse to reject your friends’ late-night gathering will be better to help you focus. A kind excuse not only helps you to reject politely but also a guideline that is useful to determine your priority.
Your life is full of choices and makes your decisions becoming harder — so positive excuses come in and play important roles. Positive excuses help you to refuse the unnecessary, minimize your choice and focus on fewer things when you decide.
Positive excuses are always better than negative excuses, and you can upgrade your excuses by turning them into persuasive reasons. You should consider transitioning your positive excuses into powerful reasons to eliminate the negative behavior.
There are differences between a reason and an excuse. You should minimize negative excuses in your life, add more positive excuses instead, and turning those positive excuses into powerful reasons to support the things that you are doing.
“The day you take complete responsibility for yourself, the day you stop making any excuses, that’s the day you start to the top.” — O. J. Simpson
Turn every action into strong momentum that will produce powerful and meaningful effects on your life.